This book isn't a "how to" raise godly children. Are you disappointed? It's a book to show you that your children need the gospel not the law. What saved us in our trespasses? Not the law, but His grace! Hallelujah for God's grace. Hallelujah for a Christian parenting book that finally preaches the truth of His grace and not the burden of the law.
"Nearly every parenting book you'll read will tell you how to be a successful parent of successful,
seemingly sinless children. Our modern worship of personal success stories is clearly seen
in the number of books that outline the methods for producing spiritual giants. Whether
they encourage family-integrated education and worship, public schools, immersing our family in the culture, or moving to a little house on the prairie, being a successful parent and raising
successful kids is the only paradigm we seem to be willing to accept. But what if we're measuring
success in the wrong way? Could it be that our perception of success isn't God's plan
for us or for our family? What if he's going to use our failure and our children's rebellion to make us humble comforters of other sufferers for his glory?" pg.148
"Do you hear the underlying message of that best-selling book? Your child's success depends
entirely on your ability to communicate to him in the right way. "If we do our job right as parents to instill these values, our kids will be a success at whatever they do! We'll have trophy kids! This is the message of every book about parenting that is not rooted in the grace of God demonstrated
in the gospel. ..... parenting books are not Christian if their primary message is law. If their
message isn't rooted and grounded in the truth that you and your children are deeply sinful
yet deeply loved, in reality its nothing more than a glorification of the will and work of the parent.
Aside from placing a crushing burden of guilt and fear upon the backs of dads and moms, the thought that we can change any one's heart is laughable. Change our children's hearts?
Only God has the power to change the heart!.....
When we make parenting more complex than God has made it, we afflict ourselves with burdens
too heavy for us to carry, and we are unintentionally presuming that the good news of the gospel
is insufficient." pg 161
There isn't a page in this book of mine that isn't highlighted in yellow. These are only some of the quotes that made the ground underneath me move and quake that I walk on daily. If you know me you wouldn't think or even suggest that I am legalistic or struggle with that in my Christian walk but this book really made me examine how I have explained or have been an example of what the gospel is to my children.
A few weeks ago I was driving my oldest son to school and I asked him, "What makes a person a Christian?" He proceeded to give me a list of things Christians don't do. My worse fear may have come true. Have I raised a Pharisee? Have a raised a rule keeper or a Jesus' lover? I proceeded to tell him that a Christian isn't necessarily a person who goes to church, doesn't cuss, doesn't do drugs, etc. Just because you do those things isn't what makes you a Christian. It's what you love and do you love Christ more than anything and want to live your life for Him is why you do or don't do those things. We go to church because we love Christ and want to worship Him and be with His people. We try to live holy lives because He is holy and we love Him and want to please Him, but doing those things doesn't make us holy or make us right with Him. He has done that already by His death on the cross.
I want to get this book in parent's hands so I will be doing a book giveaway Sunday, November 20th & Sunday, November 27th. You can enter numerous ways and each one will give you another entry in the giveaway. You can follow my blog, "like" my Facebook page, follow me on Twitter, repost & retweet the giveaway on your pages or blogs. I will keep all entries till we give away both copies of "Give Them Grace" on Nov. 27th. Leave comments on my blog to show me which way you've entered the giveaway. Please include me in your reposts so I can accurately keep track of your entries.I will continue to post my favorite quotes of "Give Them Grace" during the duration of the two giveaways.